Side Effects

I've been dealing with the side effects of infertility lately.  I still struggle with the fact we don't have kids on occasion, but what makes it worse is the fact society reminds me of it ALL the time!

1. Seeing companies let people without kids go and keeping the "single mom" or person with a family because "they need the money more".
• Statements like "Well he has a young family at home" does NOT make things any better. 
2. Taking time to find the right job while coming to terms your dream job of being a mother won't happen.
• Discovering "taking the time" ended up biting you in the a** when people ask about the brief break in your work history that's rapidly growing longer every day.
3. Wondering why I'm not only barren, but seemingly unemployable when I can't land a job after over a year of resume sending and interviewing. (Yes the economy is bad, but really?)
4. Trying to work the "I don't have kids and can work long hours" to your favor in interviews and finding that they'd rather you did have kids or don't understand why you didn't adopt.
5. Learning from a financial adviser that society and tax laws work totally against childless couples, and having them state that perhaps we'll get lucky and get pregnant anyway as it would make the future much easier from a financial perspective.
6. Wonder if my advanced age (now 42) is hurting me in my job hunt the same way that age affected my trying for children.
7. Wondering since nature and society seem to be done with me what's the point.  But figure there must be one, so continue to interview while working on a career that will help fill the void in my soul where a child was supposed to be.

I know there are other people out of work and I'm not alone, but I'm SO tired of interviewing and looking for a job.  It's okay for a mother to stay at home and care for their kids, that's a job too. So maybe next time you're behind the hiring desk, staring at the infertile woman who ONLY has her career left. Please give her a chance. Just because they don't have kids doesn't mean they are any less deserving.  Nor will it mean that they are any less grateful for the opportunity.  I'm not saying overlook all childbearing women and fathers, but don't rule the ones who couldn't achieve their goal of motherhood out.  Just because they weren't successful, it doesn't mean they're any less deserving.

Thanks for listening.